Where Mormons Learn about the “Pornography Problem” and How to Overcome It.
The purpose of this website is simple: To offer hope to those hurt by sex and pornography addiction. In these pages, we help visitors come to understand (1) that sex and porn addiction is absolutely real, and (2) that recovery is definitely possible. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Although this site is not affiliated with The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, its creators approach the subjects of sex addiction and recovery from the LDS or Mormon perspective. Also, there is no affiliation between this site and Sexaholics Anonymous, Alcoholics Anonymous or any other 12 Step program or fellowship.
Education About Addiction Is Key for Latter-day Saints.
According to the LDS Church, education is key to protecting families from pornography. The sooner members of the LDS Church come to understand sex and pornography addiction as it really is, the sooner they can take their rightful places on the front lines in the battle for the souls of God’s children. Rather than being helpless spectators, they can save lives and marriages.
A Willingness to Accept Help from Others Is Also Vital.
Elder Jeffrey R. Holland of the Quorum of the Twelve counseled addicts not only to get help, but to be grateful for it:
Acknowledge that people bound by the chains of true addictions often need more help than self-help, and that may include you. Seek that help and welcome it. Talk to your bishop. Follow his counsel. Ask for a priesthood blessing. Use the Church’s Family Services offerings or seek other suitable professional help. Pray without ceasing. Ask for angels to help you (General Conference, April 2010).
A good place to start is in Addiction 101 (The Basics) in the sidebar.►
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You should also check out the blog posts down below.▼
If you have thoughts or experiences about recovery, we invite you to share them with us.
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Common Questions and Answers for Latter-day Saints:
9 Points that Will Surprise Mormon Porn Addicts Dear Friend: Your wife asked me to write this letter to you. I don’t know you personally, but I know exactly who you are and how you think. You and I are … Continue reading
And you thought my problem was porn! The other day, I ran across a description of the typical alcoholic. I tweaked it a bit to apply to me, a sex addict. Here it is: Characteristic of the so-called typical [sex … Continue reading
A Mormon sex addict in recovery considers the phenomenon behind the bestselling book and the new movie, Fifty Shades of Grey. So the movie Fifty Shades of Grey comes out this weekend. I read in Time that more tickets for … Continue reading
I am a Mormon and love being a Mormon. I’m also a sex and pornography addict which is just another way of saying that I’m a lust addict. My life was a wreck for decades. Then, I found a program … Continue reading
Why is masturbation so hard for Mormons to talk about? I’ve said often that one of the greatest weapons in the addicts’ arsenal is obfuscation. Obfuscate: [ob-fuh-skeyt, ob-fuhs-keyt]: 1. to confuse, bewilder, or stupefy; 2. to make obscure or unclear: … Continue reading
I need to a clear addiction definition to stay alive. Hi! Happy 2015! If you’re new to the website, welcome. I’ll hope you’ll keep coming back. I wanted to bring up my addiction definition again. I’ve talked about it before, … Continue reading
Step Ten: Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it (from the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous). A few weeks ago, I had a chance to work the 10th Step spontaneously. As I was making … Continue reading
[**UPDATE – Mar 12, 2015 – Problem solved.] I’ve received a number of emails from people wondering what the deal is with the paperback edition of Sitting in a Rowboat Throwing Marbles at a Battleship. It suddenly disappeared. Well, it’s … Continue reading
Good news! Sitting in a Rowboat Throwing Marbles at a Battleship, the book that has changed the way Mormons talk about addiction and the porn problem, is now available as an instant download ebook in Kindle format. The book has … Continue reading
I don’t know about you, but I’ve always had a complicated relationship with Arnold Friberg. He’s the fellow who painted all those colorful images of prophets and missionaries that the Church has used for decades to illustrate its paperback edition … Continue reading
For a long time now, I’ve wanted to tackle addiction in the context of the LDS view of agency. Seems kind of important, doesn’t it? I’ve put it off, however, because as foundational as agency is to Mormon theology, Latter-day … Continue reading
Knocking the lid off some dumb ideas that keep hurting spouses! On January 2, 2013, a four hour conversation with my husband changed my life forever. I knew within the first 10 minutes that our marriage hung by a thread … Continue reading
My two oldest kids are in high school and attend early morning seminary. I am thrilled that this year’s focus of study is the Book of Mormon. In solidarity, I started re-reading the BoM on my own at the beginning … Continue reading
Huge, huge, HUGE news! A few days ago, Deseret Book started selling Sitting in a Rowboat Throwing Marbles at a Battleship on its website. It’s also supposed to be hitting the shelves at several of Deseret Book’s brick-and-mortar stores. The … Continue reading
My family went out of town for a couple weeks in late July while I stayed home to work. It will come as no surprise to that being away from spouse and kids can be a huge recipe for trouble … Continue reading
Brethren: We have a big problem on our hands–and it involves pornography. We’re not alone. It is afflicting men, women and marriages across North America without concern for faith, family structure or financial status. It is clear that Mormons are … Continue reading
A couple years ago, my wife Claire wrote a fabulous piece about coming to understand where sex fit into the bigger picture of love as Heavenly Father has framed it. I think it’s one of the most important posts on … Continue reading
I recently read an article in the Wall Street Journal (“How Often Should Married Couples Have Sex?”) about a couple in Utah trying to deal with the age old problem where the husband wants more sex and wife’s “repression” causes … Continue reading
Every once in a while, an exchange happens down in the comments that really ought to be its own post. Recently, a reader (Matt S) took issue with an essay from back in January 2013 entitled “The Single Most Important … Continue reading
Yesterday I spent some time reading blogs of LDS women whose husbands are either hooked on porn or hooked on sex with people other than their wives. If I had to distill into a single word the spirit of their … Continue reading
As I said in the first part of this post, I have found it helpful to consider the Old Testament stories of Joseph and David when gauging where I am in my own recovery from sex, lust and porn addiction. … Continue reading
For me as an addict, one of the hardest things to understand and remember about addiction is that it’s all about the mental obsession with my drug, lust. When I am active in my addiction, I grow progressively more obsessed … Continue reading
So a couple weeks ago, I finished “90 in 90.” Translation: I attended 90 meetings of Sexaholics Anonymous over a period of 90 days. Kind of an interesting things for a Mormon to do, don’t you think? As I mentioned … Continue reading
Below is the three-part reading list (with a **bonus** part added at no additional charge!) that was originally found on the LDS Church’s addiction recovery website, combatingpornography.org. I referenced the list in a post a few weeks back and encouraged … Continue reading
This past weekend of LDS General Conference was a wonderful one for me. My wife religiously observes a trans-generational tradition of baking German pancakes on Saturday morning and then frying griddle cakes on Sunday morning. It’s a wonderfully pleasant experience … Continue reading
A couple weeks ago, I posted about the Sexual Addiction Reading List found on the LDS Church’s pornography addiction recovery website. One thing I mentioned was that while the site was a good initial effort, the Church hasn’t really done … Continue reading
“Your writing style brings to mind Mark Twain.” No one has ever said that to me and I’m not holding my breath that anyone ever will. Every once in a while, however, someone will say, “Your writing style reminds me … Continue reading
I received correspondence recently from a young LDS man who related his very personal experience about porn addiction and beginning his recovery that warrants sharing to a broader audience. If you’ve wondered what a guy who’s ready for recovery sounds … Continue reading
[Update: Sometime around April 1, 2013, the LDS Church updated its pornography addiction recovery website. Although the content is primarily the same, the official “Sexual Addiction Reading List” discussed in this post sadly did not make the cut. I changed … Continue reading
I talk to a lot of Mormon sex and porn addicts, many of whom have found a wonderful and complete recovery in Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). One of the great things about SA is the way its members have come to … Continue reading
Around the beginning of 2013, I made a little adjustment to my life that has improved my commitment to sexual sobriety. I quit drinking Coke Zero. I also quit drinking Diet Dr. Pepper. What, you ask, does soda have to … Continue reading
As the Savior Jesus Christ approached the last few hours of His mortal life, He left the upper room where He had just taken His final meal with His twelve apostles. Passing through the gates of Jerusalem, He made His … Continue reading
Have you ever had that experience when you’re reading along in the Book of Mormon or maybe one of Paul’s epistles and you suddenly come across a passage you’d never really noticed before? You ask yourself, “Where did this verse … Continue reading
I love to read. Menus at Chinese restaurants, graffiti, Trader Joe’s weekly circulars–I don’t care. Of course, books are my favorite reading experience and Rhyll Croshaw’s book, What Can I Do About Me?, which I enthusiastically plugged in a recent … Continue reading
A couple weeks ago I spent some time catching up with a long-time family friend. As is often the case for me, the topic of discussion rolled around to addiction and recovery. As we talked, my friend, who is also … Continue reading
How’s that for an endorsement? Rhyll Croshaw is a Latter-day Saint and the wife of a recovering sex addict. She and her husband started SALifeline.org, a foundation to bring information and recovery to LDS men and women whose live are … Continue reading
Last Sunday night, I spoke at a multi-stake fireside in the Snowflake/Taylor area of Northeastern Arizona. About 600 people showed up and listened to me share my experience, strength and hope for over ninety minutes. I was humbled. I say … Continue reading
This last little while I have struggled in my recovery. The resentment is less at the forefront. I am learning to spot it, to surrender it to Heavenly Father, to make phone calls in order to talk it through with … Continue reading
I am a Latter-day Saint and I thank God every day that I am. I love being a Mormon. The hope in my life and pretty much all the joy and happiness I’ve experienced are closely linked to my membership … Continue reading
How’s that for a provocative title? A secret about sex for Mormons. Almost sounds like a headline on one of those trashy women’s magazines that we all have to suffer through at the supermarket checkout. The weird thing about this … Continue reading
Administrator’s note: This is a guest post from Sidreis whose website ByTheLightOfGrace.com deals with sexual addiction among LDS women. Great stuff! Read on… I would like to take a moment and express my thoughts regarding the stigma surrounding LDS women … Continue reading