The Sexual Addiction Reading List Formerly Found on the LDS Church’s Recovery Website

Below is the three-part reading list (with a **bonus** part added at no additional charge!) that was originally found on the LDS Church’s addiction recovery website, combatingpornography.org. I referenced the list in a post a few weeks back and encouraged readers to look it over. Shortly afterwards (in early April 2013), however, the Church revamped the site and the reading list was cut out. I also posted about this redesign and whether it’s actually a substantive improvement.

Libri_books2I’m reproducing the Sexual Addiction Reading List here because I think it’s still a good resource for those looking to understand sex and pornography addiction from an LDS perspective. (Not all the authors are LDS.) The headings and any commentary, both of which arguably would have been proprietary, have been deleted and replaced with my own. Don’t forget to check out the bonus part.

Sexual Addiction Reading List

Part 1: For LDS Pornography Addicts

[I thinks it’s important to ask yourself as you’re reading these books, “Do the authors see porn addiction as a disease to overcome or just a really bad habit to break?” Understanding the difference is vital to true recovery.]

  • Confronting Pornography: A Guide to Prevention and Recovery for Individuals, Loved Ones, and Leaders, edited by Mark Chamberlain, Dan Gray, and Rory Reid
  • Willpower Is Not Enough: Why We Don’t Succeed at Change, Dean Byrd and Mark Chamberlain
  • Putting on the Armor of God, Steven A. Cramer
  • The Worth of a Soul: A Personal Account of Excommunication and Conversion, Steven A. Cramer
  • Turn Yourselves and Live, Rod W. Jeppsen
  • Line upon Line, Precept upon Precept . . .,  Rod W. Jeppsen
  • Brain Lock: Free Yourself from Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior, Jeffrey M. Schwartz
  • Wanting More: The Challenge of Enjoyment in the Age of Addiction, Mark Chamberlain
  • The Drug of the New Millennium: The Brain Science behind Internet Pornography Use, Mark Kastleman
  • Where Do You Draw the Line?: An Exploration into Media Violence, Pornography, and Censorship, Victor Cline
  • Breaking the Cycle of Compulsive Behavior, Martha Nibley Beck and John C. Beck
  • Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery, Patrick Carnes
  • He Did Deliver Me from Bondage, Colleen Harrison
  • Out Of The Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction, Patrick Carnes
  • Contrary to Love: Helping the Sexual Addict, Patrick Carnes
  • Sexaholics Anonymous White Book

Part 2: For LDS Spouses and Loved Ones of Porn Addicts

[The number one thing to keep in mind while reading these books: “I didn’t cause my spouse’s addiction, I can’t control it and I can’t cure it. Heavenly Father, however, most definitely can–and will–change my spouse on the inside sufficiently to overcome the addiction, but only if he (or she) becomes willing to do whatever it takes to find true recovery. In the meantime, I need protection and healing from the mental, emotional, spiritual and physical trauma that comes from living with a sex and pornography addict.”]

  • Boundaries and Relationships: Knowing, Protecting, and Enjoying the Self, Charles Whitfield
  • Discussing Pornography Problems with a Spouse: Confronting and Disclosing Secret Behaviors, Rory C. Reid and Dan Gray
  • Dance of Intimacy: A Woman’s Guide to Courageous Act of Change in Key Relationships, Harriet Lerner
  • Purity and Passion: Spiritual Truths about Intimacy That Will Strengthen Your Marriage, Wendy L. Watson
  • After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful, Janis A. Spring
  • How Can I Forgive You?: The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To, Janis A. Spring
  • Codependent No More: Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself, Melody Beattie
  • Lord, I Believe; Help Thou Mine Unbelief, Rod W. Jeppsen

Part 3: Articles from LDS Publications or by LDS Leaders

[Mostly from the Ensign and General Conference addresses, these articles primarily confirm that pornography is harmful and that we should do whatever we can to avoid becoming addicted. Very inspiring if one is not yet addicted. Of limited utility, however, for those who are already addicted.]

Bonus Part 4: My Additions to the Reading List

If I were in charge of the addiction recovery website effort at Church headquarters in Salt Lake City, I’d add a whole bunch of books. I consider the following four books to offer the clearest and most useful readings about porn addiction recovery and being married to a pornography addict currently available to members of the LDS Church:

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Latter-day Saint, sex and pornography addict in recovery, dealing with depression, returned missionary, father of a bunch of kids, graduate degree, self-employed, Book of Mormon reader, writer and thinker. Working on understanding and overcoming resentment, the number one killer of addicts.

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The Sexual Addiction Reading List Formerly Found on the LDS Church’s Recovery Website — 3 Comments

  1. Why have u not recommended “he restoreth my soul” by Hilton? This book was a very moving book for me, it was the leverage I needed to get my recovery started

    • I have the same question about “He Restoreth My Soul” – I am currently reading it and it is an excellent book that really addresses the depth of addiction and goes along well with your website. From the reviews I have read it seems like a lot of Bishops and Stake Presidents use it. I am trying to decide whether to share it with my Stake President who has been counseling with my husband and I.

      • The books and articles in the post are just a reproduction of the list given on the LDS Church’s website before the list was unfortunately removed a few weeks back. It hadn’t been updated in years which is a possible reason why Don Hilton’s book wasn’t found there. I’m going to add He Restoreth My Soul and a few other books at the end just so it’s more up to date and useful.

        Oh, and I’d absolutely share the Hilton book with your stake president and anyone else who’ll read it. It was an eye opener for my wife and me at the beginning of our recovery. It was after reading it that she decided not to leave.