As I’ve said before, more and more Latter-day Saints are finding real recovery from sex and pornography addiction through Sexaholics Anonymous (SA), a 12 Step group based on the recovery program of Alcoholics Anonymous. In a previous post, I noted that many people contact our site and say they can’t find a local meeting of SA or its sister program for spouses and family of sex and porn addicts, S-Anon. My response is heartfelt: Start your own! Here’s how:
First of all you need to get the literature and start reading it. Don’t worry. You will find nothing there that conflicts with LDS doctrine. What you will find is a clear explanation of the roots of addiction and what you need to do to overcome the compulsive behavior. You can order both SA materials and S-Anon materials online.
Next, you need to see how meetings actually work. If you can’t make it to a face-to-face meeting (find an SA meeting here or an S-Anon meeting here) with regularity, then you need to start attending the phone meetings. The SA phone meeting schedule can be found here and the S-Anon phone schedule can be found here. (Whoops! They’re making a liar out of me! I can’t find the link to the S-Anon phone meetings. I’ll have to track it down. In the meantime, you can contact S-Anon for more information.)
Once you do this, you’re ready to start your own meeting. All you need is one more person and you’ve got your 12 Step meeting. Talk to LDS Family Services to see if they know of anyone who is looking to supplement what they offer through PASG/ARP. Speaking with clergy of other churches is another good way to identify people who are also seeking recovery.
You can talk to local bishops, stake presidents and Relief Society presidents. These days, I think many, if not most, of them are familiar with Sexaholics Anonymous and S-Anon and will support your effort to start a meeting. They can help you find people who are looking for recovery.
One bit of advice is to stick with the AA/SA 12 Step format. You might feel inclined to embellish the meetings with LDS doctrines and traditions. Resist the urge. Just do the SA or S-Anon program the way the literature suggests you do it. Then, bring what you learn and experience back into the Church and “strengthen your brethren.” I’m excited for you! You’re going to see miracles happen! You are going to save souls!