LDS View: Starting Your Own Meeting of Sexaholics Anonymous or S-Anon

As I’ve said before, more and more Latter-day Saints are finding real recovery from sex and pornography addiction through Sexaholics Anonymous (SA), a 12 Step group based on the recovery program of Alcoholics Anonymous. In a previous post, I noted that many people contact our site and say they can’t find a local meeting of SA or its sister program for spouses and family of sex and porn addicts, S-Anon. My response is heartfelt: Start your own! Here’s how:

First of all you need to get the literature and start reading it. Don’t worry. You will find nothing there that conflicts with LDS doctrine. What you will find is a clear explanation of the roots of addiction and what you need to do to overcome the compulsive behavior. You can order both SA materials and S-Anon materials online.

Next, you need to see how meetings actually work. If you can’t make it to a face-to-face meeting (find an SA meeting here or an S-Anon meeting here) with regularity, then you need to start attending the phone meetings. The SA phone meeting schedule can be found here and the S-Anon phone schedule can be found here. (Whoops! They’re making a liar out of me! I can’t find the link to the S-Anon phone meetings. I’ll have to track it down. In the meantime, you can contact S-Anon for more information.)

If you're lucky, the LDS Family Services office will put you in touch with others who are looking to start a meeting.Once you do this, you’re ready to start your own meeting. All you need is one more person and you’ve got your 12 Step meeting. Talk to LDS Family Services to see if they know of anyone who is looking to supplement what they offer through PASG/ARP. Speaking with clergy of other churches is another good way to identify people who are also seeking recovery.

You can talk to local bishops, stake presidents and Relief Society presidents. These days, I think many, if not most, of them are familiar with Sexaholics Anonymous and S-Anon and will support your effort to start a meeting. They can help you find people who are looking for recovery.

One bit of advice is to stick with the AA/SA 12 Step format. You might feel inclined to embellish the meetings with LDS doctrines and traditions. Resist the urge. Just do the SA or S-Anon program the way the literature suggests you do it. Then, bring what you learn and experience back into the Church and “strengthen your brethren.” I’m excited for you! You’re going to see miracles happen! You are going to save souls!

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Latter-day Saint, sex and pornography addict in recovery, dealing with depression, returned missionary, father of a bunch of kids, graduate degree, self-employed, Book of Mormon reader, writer and thinker. Working on understanding and overcoming resentment, the number one killer of addicts.

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LDS View: Starting Your Own Meeting of Sexaholics Anonymous or S-Anon — 3 Comments

    • Dan, I moved your comment to a more relevant post. It’s my understanding that the LDS church won’t make buildings available for a number of reasons. One is insurance and liability. If the Church allows SA to meet in buildings then it could be construed that the Church is somehow connected to and responsible for SA. Another reason is that the Church wants to promote PASG and ARP and giving space to SA would not be consistent with that promotional goal. Still, it couldn’t hurt to ask. Let me know what you find out.

  1. I started my own S-Anon group but find it hard to know where I can get support only one other person is in my group. I am LDS I have a question about my husband beginning to watch music video’s again even if they are in good taste He is doing well in his recovery. He ensures me he does not get the same emotions he used to. In his eyes videos television and movies are all the same so no videos also means no tv or movies . He is willing to do whatever I ask. I tell him tv and movies are fine in good taste but I would rather no music videos …. Can you help I feel like my worries are coming all back .