I’m spending this weekend with about seventy other sexaholics in recovery at a Sexaholics Anonymous men’s retreat in Northern California. The goal of the weekend is to help the men focus on working the Twelve Steps, especially the ones that require a lot of writing like the Fourth and Eighth Steps. I am the only Latter-day Saint in attendance, but that’s OK.
In the future, I believe, there will be a lot of Mormon men attending this retreat, working through the tough Steps and coming home to their wife and family with a renewed commitment to doing whatever it takes to find recovery. They’ll be better husbands and fathers as a result of their time spent with other addicts in recovery. As I say frequently, the single most important factor in a sex addict’s recovery is the time he spends with other addicts who are further along in recovery than he is.
Some of the guys here have been in the program for a couple decades. They’ll be the first to say that Sexaholics Anonymous saved their lives and their sanity. One of them actually began attending SA meetings in Southern California when he was eighteen. Even at that young age, he had become aware that his life was unmanageable and he needed help. He found it in Sexaholics Anonymous.
My friend actually attended meetings and associated with Roy K, the founder of Sexaholics Anonymous. For alcoholics, this would be like hanging out with Dr. Bob and Bill W. I talked to him a bunch tonight about his experiences with the young SA program. I asked him whether he knew any Latter-day Saints who attended SA during those early years. He said there was only one, that he attended for a while, then moved to Utah and stopped going to meetings.
So much has changed. Latter-day Saints all over the world are now attending SA meetings. They’re finding sexual sobriety. They are becoming able to live the Gospel fully. It is a wonderful thing to see.